The other day our cat came back from her morning backyard inspection with a young bird in her mouth. (Which was really odd because she usually ignores anything that flies.) My husband made her drop it on the back step before he let her in. The poor thing appeared to be dead. After I got dressed I went to dispose of it and bird was gone. Don’t know if it recovered after all and moved elsewhere by itself or if one of the neighboring cats got it.
A little while later I saw an adult bird flying around the step, then perching on a patio chair, then flying over the step again. It had a worm in its mouth and I’m guessing it was looking for the young one to feed it. Eventually it left and presumably went to feed its other young. And undoubtedly it mourned for the missing baby.
This scenario struck me as symbolic of parenthood for all species. The young leave, sometimes we don’t know where, and we, as parents, are suddenly stripped of our roles, our focus in life. It can be hard when they’ve left with our knowledge and “permission.” But if they disappear – run away, reject the family – it must be devastating. Even if there have been problems, the basic love is still there and the desertion must leave a huge hole in the heart.
Many times worse, of course, is when a child dies. Then there’s no hope of reconciliation or reunion. Just a constant grief that hopefully gets better with time. It’s no wonder marriages often don’t survive that loss.
I’ve been lucky enough not to have had to deal with either of the worst case scenarios. I’m not sure how I would handle them. How would you deal with such losses?
(Sorry if this post is a downer. Probably due to my being sick.) Hope you have a good weekend.
Healing is her life. Will it be her death?
Two dead bodies. One dirty cop.
Is she next?
Images – A Love Story
She’s learned to hide from life.
Should she hide from him?
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