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By Stephanie Stamm


In preparation for the new year and in the spirit of New Year’s resolutions, I’ve been thinking a lot about balance.

Webster’s defines “balance” as

  • the state of having your weight spread equally so that you do not fall;
  • the ability to move or to remain in a position without losing control or falling;
  • a state in which different things occur in equal or proper amounts or have an equal or proper amount of importance.

All of those definitions fit together, don’t they? When we are out of balance, we feel like we might fall; when our lives are out of balance, they (or we) feel like we might fall apart.

As I’ve thought about this post, I’ve pictured images of a seesaw…


or a scale.


We have so many things to balance in our lives. Work and play, sleeping and waking, family and friends, and for many of us writers, day job and writing. In fact, the seesaw and balance seem a little too limited with only two ends. We might better think about juggling multiple items…

person juggling

or apportioning the pieces of a pie chart.

Balance Pie Chart

It’s very easy for certain aspects of our lives to get out of balance. Maybe we work too much. Maybe we don’t spend enough time with our family. Maybe we don’t work on our writing enough. Maybe we neglect to exercise. We can convince ourselves that we’ll find that balance later, when things settle down, when we have more time, or fewer balls to juggle.

But I’ve been thinking about how we get this one gift of a life—and I’m finding that waiting until later to find balance doesn’t seem like such a good idea. Life isn’t happening later. Life is happening now. Now seems like a good time to get those pieces in order.

So, that’s one of my goals for the new year. To find a sense of balance in all the pieces-parts of life that I want to fit together. I’m tired of tipping from one end of the seesaw to the other. I don’t want to weigh my life in the balance and find important pieces wanting.

Are there particular things you want to balance in the new year? What, if any, resolutions have you made?


Seesaw 1902:  By Chicago Daily News [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Apothecary’s Balance: [CC BY 4.0 (, via Wikimedia Commons


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21 thoughts on “Balance

  1. Great post Stephanie. I was talking about this very thing with someone yesterday. I’m a resolution maker and at the end of the year, before I make new ones, I look over my list to see which ones I have accomplished. Since the Bipolar diagnosis I have had an extreme problem keeping balance in my life. It’s an every day chore, but one I long to achieve. It definitely will be on the list this year! Thanks for the post!


  2. Ah yes, balance. So necessary yet not so easy to achieve. Good points, well said. Now to the resolutions. (Well, maybe after work…smile) Thank you Stephanie. Doris


    1. Thank you, Erin. I don’t know how easy it will be to achieve, but it’s worth working on, trying to broaden the focus, determine what’s really important, what things need attention when. Happy New Year to you too!


  3. Way back when I was a journalist in my 30s in Central Florida, I went to a daylong seminar on establishing work priorities. In a way, setting priorities for work and family life is much like finding balance. It’s never easy… you think you are in balance and then something unforeseen turns your life topsy-turvy.


    1. Yes, that’s probably always going to be the case–like constantly adjusting the rudder as you steer a boat. Maybe the point is to get happy with the ongoing course adjustments.


  4. I am always in the balance and find myself wanting. It’s not a great feeling. I need to step back this year and relax a bit. Do some painting, go to the beach, spend the weekend in the mountains. Just kicking back. Thanks Stephanie. I really haven’t set any Resolutions, I have some Spiritual goals I’d like to reach. Love the pictures. Cher’ley


    1. Those sound like lovely relaxing options, Cher’ley. Just kicking back for a while is a good goal. Wishing you a relaxing year and success in meeting those spiritual goals.


  5. Wonderful post, Stephanie, and so appropriate! I was very much out of balance in 2014, although I am grateful for all the writing projects I had. In 2015 I am cutting back on some to take on a larger one, but that one allows me to work at home more and do interviews on the phone instead of running around town. I look forward to what the New Year will bring my way and I hope you enjoy a blessed — and balanced one — as well!


    1. Thanks, Neva. It is a challenge, I think. But, at least for me, it feels like the right one for this year. And part of that is too let whatever I can do toward each piece on any given day be enough.


  6. Great comparisons. For the new year I resolve to do more. Not more work, but more volunteering, more writing, more getting out there and doing things. The dishes, laundry etc can wait until later.


  7. Balance is a priority for me, too, in 2015, but that might mean I need to set very realistic wedges of that cheese. My family time is definitely taking up larger wedges just now – the way i want it to – and I expect that to continue till my house returns to the ‘me and my husband only’ situation- though if my daughter’s new house is on our doorstep we’ll see how that works out! I hope you manage that balance, Stephanie, and I think that acknowledging the need is a very good first step.


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