This post by Jennifer Flaten
I picked my daughter up from her first Forensics Tournament on Saturday. I couldn’t wait to hear all the details. After settling herself in my car she answered my initial questions, but in a rather subdued manner, not her usual bubbly self.
I figured she was tired. After all, it was her first tournament one that she had to get up at 5:30am to prep for and the bus ride was over an hour long. The tournament itself lasted over 10 hours. She agreed she was tired, but there was something else bothering her.
I realized it probably had something to do with her performance. I figured she’d done OK, or at least I hoped she had. Still, I knew she hadn’t come away with any ribbons because I am sure she would have texted me if she did.
Bracing myself for tears, or a tantrum or who knows what–she is a teenager remember. I asked how she did. She admitted she didn’t do as well as she’d hoped. I told her it was her first one, the one she learns from…still I braced myself for her disappoint, maybe even anger that she didn’t do better. Maybe she would want to quit the team–who knows with kids right?
Later when we were home, after she’d had a chance to eat and relax a bit she told her she loved performing. Yes, she was disappointed and wanted to do better, but…here’s the best part. She wanted try again immediately.
At the beginning of the season she had to pick which tournaments she wanted to participate in and now she didn’t want to wait for her next scheduled tournament. It was in 2 weeks, but she wanted to go to the next one.
In order to do that she had to email the coach and ask if she could be a late entry into this weekend’s tournament.
So many components of this make me happy/proud. One, that my most reserved kid is participating in an activity that requires public speaking and two, that her first time out she didn’t do so great, but her immediate response wasn’t “I’ll give up” or “I’m never doing that again” it was “I want to try this again immediately to see if I can do better”.
Honestly, when I was thirteen I don’t think I would have done any of those things. Certainly, not perform for an audience and certainly not something competitive. I was a truly shy kid.
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