Philomena

This post by Abbie Johnson Taylor

 

In 1952, you’re a teen-aged girl in Ireland. After a romantic encounter with a man you meet at a fair, you become pregnant. In shame, your family sends you away to a convent.

It’s a breech birth. The nuns have little or no medical training. Other women and children have died during childbirth there and are buried in unmarked graves nearby. The mother superior believes that the pain of childbirth is God’s punishment for carnal sin so no drugs are administered. In agony, as the nun removes the baby with forceps, you beg her not to “let them put him in the ground.” Miraculously, you give birth to a healthy baby boy. Thus begins the story of Philomena, a book I’ve read and a movie I’ve seen.

Martin Sixsmith, the author of The Lost Child of Philomena Lee, (2009) and Philomena, with Dame Judi Dench, (2013) is a British author, Russian scholar, BBC presenter, and former advisor to the government in the United Kingdom. He has written about Russian history, the scandal surrounding the adoption of Irish children by American parents, and other current events. Besides two books about Philomena Lee, the Irish mother forced to give up her child for adoption, his other work includes Russia: A 1000-Year Chronicle of the Wild East, (2012) and Spin. (2005) In his writing, he has also focused on political communication in government. To read more about him, visit http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Sixsmith .

The book, Philomena, begins with a short introduction by Dame Judi Dench, the actress who portrayed her in the movie. Martin Sixsmith then starts by describing the birth of Philomena’s son Anthony and their lives afterward in the convent. Philomena and other girls who had babies out of wedlock were virtual prisoners there for four years, working to pay off the cost of their care, so to speak. She did the laundry seven days a week and by night, she and the other girls sewed clothes for their children who stayed in the convent until they were adopted. The mothers were allowed daily contact with their children and naturally, they developed close bonds.

Sixsmith also touches on the sale of Irish children to American families. He describes how some Irish government officials tried to block such adoptions but were thwarted by the Catholic Church. In 1955, Philomena was forced to sign papers giving Anthony up for adoption, and he was taken to the U.S. to live with a family in Missouri. Mary, a little girl at the convent about the same age who developed a close friendship with Anthony, was also taken by the same family who didn’t want to separate the children.

Most of the remainder of Martin Sixsmith’s book is devoted primarily to Anthony’s story. The family who adopted him and Mary changed his name to Michael, and Sixsmith describes his life growing up in Missouri and Iowa. The friendship between Michael and Mary grew stronger in America, and in later years, Mary was the only one in the family who supported him. All through his life, Michael wondered about his natural mother. His adoptive parents, who knew the truth, thought it better to tell him that his mother abandoned him.

Sixsmith explains how Michael first realized he was gay as a teen-ager. A priest at Notre Dame University encouraged him to purge himself of his desires. Michael tried but found himself becoming more and more involved in such activities.

In the 1970’s after graduating from Notre Dame and receiving a law degree from George Washington University, Michael worked for the National Republican Committee in D.C. and eventually became the chief counsel for the White House. Sixsmith pinpoints the irony of a gay man working for the Republican Party during the Reagan and Bush eras when homosexuality was considered taboo and Republicans blocked funding for AIDS research. This, combined with feelings of abandonment Michael harbored from his childhood, caused mood swings and bouts of drinking and engaging in sadomasochistic activities. Most of his relationships didn’t last long.

In the 1970’s Michael and Mary made a trip to Ireland in an attempt to find their mothers but were told by the nuns at the convent that they had no records. In the 1990’s, after Michael developed AIDS, he made a second trip to Ireland with his partner, Pete Nelson, and was told that records from the 1950’s were destroyed in a fire. They later learned at the bed and breakfast where they were staying that the nuns deliberately set the fire because of an investigation into the Catholic Church’s practice of selling Irish children to American families for adoption. Michael died a year or so later, never knowing about his mother. At his request, he was buried at the convent in Ireland where he was born.

At the end of the book, Martin Sixsmith devotes a couple of chapters to Philomena after Anthony was taken from her in 1955. I would like to have read more about her, but she may not have wanted her life revealed in such detail. After Anthony left the convent, the nuns sent Philomena to work at a school for boys in England, and she eventually became a nurse. She married twice and had several children and grandchildren. She made frequent trips to the convent in Ireland to inquire about her son but was rebuffed by the nuns every time. She kept the secret of Anthony’s birth from her family for fifty years.

After she finally broke down and told them, her daughter introduced her to Sixsmith, and the three of them visited the convent in Ireland. By this time, there were different nuns with more liberal views, and through other channels, they were able to learn of Anthony’s life in America and that he passed away and was buried at the convent.

I liked Martin Sixsmith’s style of writing this book. Besides giving us a journalistic rundown of all the events, he takes us into the lives of the main characters, telling us what they were feeling and thinking. The book was written like fiction, and I was compelled to keep reading to the end.

On the other hand, the movie doesn’t tell the whole story and uses some artistic license. After Sixsmith meets Philomena’s daughter at a party, he is introduced to her mother, and the two of them travel to Ireland to inquire about Anthony. The nuns tell them their records from the 1950’s were destroyed in a fire and show Philomena the contract she signed, giving Anthony up for adoption that stated she agreed not to try to contact him. Sixsmith later learns from locals in a pub that the nuns started the fire.

The search for Anthony takes Martin and Philomena to Washington, D.C. where they learn of his life and passing. After talking with Mary and Pete Nelson, they learn of Michael’s burial at the convent in Ireland. Upon their return, Martin confronts one of the nuns, and Philomena finds her son’s grave and says goodbye. I enjoyed the performances of Dame Judi Dench and the other actors, but the movie left a lot to be desired, compared to the book.

According to Sixsmith, Michael requested that “Danny Boy” be sung at his funeral in Washington, D.C. before he was taken to Ireland for burial. I can think of no better way to end this post. Please click below to hear me sing this song. Happy St. Patrick’s Day.

 

https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/15213189/danny%20boy.mp3

 

Abbie Johnson Taylor, Author

 

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12 Responses to Philomena

  1. Wranglers says:

    I didn’t get a chane to put photos on this blog, Abbie I’m sorry. A revirw is okay once in awhile, but I miss your poetry, and I miss learning about you and your life. Cher’ley

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  2. I really enjoyed your post, Abbie. This sounds like a fascinating book and movie and I enjoyed reading your thoughts on it. It’s nice to change posts up once in awhile and this one is great!

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  3. Doris says:

    A nice review, and appropriate for St. Patrick’s Day. History has many stories to tell, and some are given the gift of authors and actors who bring them to life. Doris

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  4. Travis says:

    I need to see the movie. I heard great things about it. I’m also interested in Sixsmith’s Russian history book. Thanks for letting us know about it.

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  5. katewyland says:

    I haven’t seen the movie but had heard about it, of course. Didn’t remember it was about Irish children. Very appropriate topic for the day. And I want to learn more. Thanks.

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  6. Neva Bodin says:

    Enjoyed learning some history but what a sad story for Anthony. I find movies are never as good as the book they are made from, especially if I read the book first. Fascinating story though. Enjoyed hearing you sing Danny Boy also. DIdn’t know you were such a good singer.

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  7. Wranglers says:

    Loved listening to you sing. The first link is to her song. Thsnks. Cher’ley

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  8. Gayle Irwin says:

    I loved your post, Abbie, and so appropriate for St. Patrick’s Day! Fascinating, and very sad story — interesting the author wrote the book like fiction woven with journalism. We writers are a strange bunch sometimes! LOL Thank you for the great information about the book and the movie and an insight into what you like to read … and what others of us might enjoy as well. Hope your St. Patrick’s Day was enjoyable!

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  9. Thanks to all who commented so far. Cherl’ey, I’ll try to squeeze in a poem next month. For anyone wanting to see the movie, I’m sure it’s available from Net Flicks or some other retailer. Glad you liked the review and my singing.

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  10. Nancy Jardine says:

    It’s definitely as sad story, Abbie. I’ve read another book that was written a few years ago about the ‘adoption’ centres at the Irish convents. That was also made into a TV production and was hard to watch since the girls/unmarried mums were treated so barbarically. In that instance the babies were removed immediately from the mums but the girls still had to stay on for moinths to earn that ‘keep’ before being released. Harrowing stuff.

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  11. sstamm625 says:

    Very sad story. Nice to hear you sing “Danny Boy,” Abbie.

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  12. S. J. Brown says:

    Interesting review. Most movies I see based on a book aren’t quite as good as the book. That may be because books leave us room to use our imagination.

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