I may have mentioned before that I am entertained frequently by articles in the newspaper. Barring all the stories of what horrible things people do to each other of course.
Today (October 1, 2015 in the Casper Star Tribune, Casper, WY) there was encouragement for writers in Garfield’s cartoon. “The best books are the ones you write yourself,” he said. A beat-up Dennis the Menace tells his mom, “He asked me what I thought of him, and I told him. The truth hurts!” Great thoughts to ponder!
A serious article about an upcoming event on page A6 advertises it is for adults only, “but men are more than welcome.” That brought back thoughts I’ve had on occasion about how our society now thinks about men.
A century ago, men were expected to open doors for women, help them exit carriages, lay their coats down over puddles for women to walk on as legend says Sir Walter Raleigh did for Queen Elizabeth. Men were the leaders, in charge, the defenders.
Yes, there were outlaws, renegades, and attacks against women that happened. But culturally, women were thought to be “delicate” and to be shielded from roughness. Women and men for the most part each had their place in society and life.
A pioneer woman’s diary I read told of how polite all the cowpokes on her husband’s ranch always were to her.
There certainly was a negative side as well as a positive, as in all things. In the past men were to be the decision makers and be in control. The little woman was to be kept “barefoot and pregnant.” Women had to fight to vote, hold offices, and do many things they are good at, besides nurturing and feeding their families.
The World Wars were catalysts for much of this change I believe. Remember “Rosie the Riveter?” And of course we learn of the many women doctors from Doris.
But did we lose something in the feminist movement? And, just as important, did men lose something as well?
There is a website titled: http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/how-feminists-define-gender-traits/, which writes, “The ever so common feminist mantra in our misandric society is‘men bad, women good.’ To put it another way: men are inherently bad by nature, and women are inherently good by nature.” I don’t agree with this statement.
In a line uttered by a slightly inebriated Anne Hathaway in the movie “The Intern” after she inadvertently addresses several of the men who work with her as boys and apologizes, she asks (and I hope I remember it the way she said it) what happened in our society that “girls became women and men became boys?” Trailer at https://youtu.be/ZU3Xban0Y6A
Although I still see articles about wage inequality, we can all see the many ways women and men stand alongside each other. I applaud the fact that women can be more than secretaries, nurses or teachers, which seemed to be the main professions for women available when I was young. Anything is possible for women now.
I don’t think the aforementioned article adding as an afterthought that men are welcome also to an “adults-only” event meant to do that, but it reminded me of a lot of “men jokes” and other innuendos that go around that might lessen the importance of men and perhaps question their masculinity.
So many times society goes too far in making a point. Each gender is designed a bit different, and building on and applauding those differences are just as important as recognizing the sameness.
So, vive la men, and let’s accept that we each have strengths and personality traits that enhance each other’s existence, and sometimes make life very interesting!