Post copyright by Doris McCraw
I try to practice what I call empathic communication. When I am in a conversation with someone, it is about listening not only to their words, but the feelings behind what they are saying. Then I work to remember what they said to have a point of communication with them in the future.
As I’ve spoken of before, there was major damage to homes in my neighborhood. The residents have been unable to resolve their issues with the water district, county and insurance. No one is taking any responsibility for their part in the event. I spoke with a young man who lives down the street while he raked leaves for me. He said he wasn’t allowed to go downstairs due to asthma and the possibility of mold due to water damage. He then said his mother went down there to do the laundry. You could hear the concern in his voice for her.
A friend is now in life care. She had a second stroke and it paralyzed her vocal cords. She does attempt to have conversations with me. I hope it is because I work to understand what she is trying to say. Now lest you think I am a saint, this is what I was trained to do. I spent twenty years working with juvenile delinquents, and if there is ever a need for communication, true understanding behind the words it is there. They are so used to hiding their selves from others it is hard to get through.
The other part of empathic communication is truly listening and not judging. Listening without thinking of what you are going to say next. Give the speaker your undivided attention. Honor them with a pause before answering. Many people feel they are not important because no one listens to them.
So the next time you have a conversation, give the speaker the gift of empathic communication. It will pay off in the end.
On a lighter note, Nov 24 I will have a short story in the anthology “Christmas Knight” from Prairie Rose Publications.
Originally from the mid-west, Doris now calls the Rocky Mountains her home. Doris is a writer, historian, actor,and teacher. An avid reader Doris loves to spend time in history archives looking for the small, unknown pieces of history. Many times these pieces end up in her stories or poems.
A photographer, Doris also writes haiku and combines them with her photography.
In here spare time she writes/casts and performs with a local murder mystery company.
“NEVER HAD A CHANCE” , second in the Agate Gulch stories, in the Prairie Rose Publications “A COWBOY CELEBRATION” anthology http://amzn.to/1GzwJhw
HOME FOR HIS HEART the first in the Agate Gulch stories. http://amzn.to/1GJhpSu
Author Page: http://amzn.to/1I0YoeL