This post by Doris McCraw
The past few weeks have been stressful, and with the Holidays it may get worse before it gets better. In that vein, this post is about some of what is happening and our response. If anyone has ever heard or remember the Carpenters song “Rainy Days and Mondays” you know what I’m talking about. For those who may not have heard it, this link should take you there. https://youtu.be/dPmbT5XC-q0
I’ll start with the shootings. Please know, I don’t watch the news all the time. I get my information, then let the constant replay go unoticed. These events are terrible. While we all eventually come to an end of this life, it is never easy to see it cut short. While we can’t know exactly what is in the mind of the shooter, there are some clues I’ve picked up from working with delinquents. In both the Colorado Springs and San Bernidino events, the shooters probably believed they were doing the right thing.
How can killing ever be the right thing? I don’t know, but shooters such as these believe their actions are justified. When someone has no grounding they become the victims of the stronger personality. While this may not always a bad thing, when there are other issues involved, a person can take things literally and to a further consequnce than we would expect. When someone is wandering, they crave structure. If they don’t get it at home, or never learned to create it themselves, they become easy prey. I saw young men and women join gangs, gangs who had horrid initiations, terrible consequences for failing, yet these young people thrived in that structure. They had something to grab onto, to feel a part of. So yes, life can be depressing. Many people feel neglected, unloved and victims of lipservice caring.
I would hope that we can start to really care, take the time to listen and do more than just say we care, and start showing we do.
These things have been on my mind for some time. I think that is why after over 20 years of retirement, I still feel a kinship with those young people who were so lost. I think I still want to help them find a way home.
To end this post, I’ll leave you with a Christmas video from Kenny Rogers and Home Free. It’s the time of year to share love, and I want to send each and every one of you the best that life has to offer. You deserve it. https://youtu.be/o4qNaAlZ1xc