by Neva Bodin
BUT WAIT! IS THERE A REWARD?
What’s a topic on a lot of minds at this time of year? Already written about? You got it! Resolutions! Groan, not another blog on THAT topic….
I think many of us are excellent at making sure we think up or write down some New Year’s resolutions. But are we excellent at making them? Or keeping them?
There’s a difference between making sure we have resolutions, or making ones we will likely keep. And how in the world DO we keep them?
Lifestyle changes are very hard to make. So, how do we end up with lifestyles or habits that are not healthy? I believe the answer is rewards. A lot of our behavior/thinking is because there is a reward of some kind for it.
Resolutions are usually noble, worthwhile, and for our benefit. But, do they reward us enough to make us want to keep them?
I recently listened to a webinar by Michael Hyatt on achieving goals, and I read some more good advice in a magazine on making resolutions.
Hyatt says to set goals (resolutions I think could be substituted here) in three Circles of Life: being; relating; and doing. And I think we should determine what rewards we will get from these and write them down and keep them in our face. Otherwise, they might be forgotten as other, at-the-moment, more attractive awards might lead us astray.
Writing down goals or resolutions is essential. Hyatt also says they must be specific, measurable and time-keyed. And he says nothing ever happens inside the comfort zone.
Well, if I’m going to put up with discomfort to improve myself in some way, be it in health habits or writing, I will need a reward to overcome the discomfort, and I better remember to not use food as my reward! Unless maybe one bite of chocolate fudge every hour….
So making a resolution that means a lot to us in one of the Circles of Life, and one in which there will be a tangible or highly spiritual or emotional reward that means a lot to us, will have to go hand in hand I think. And since my mind and body tend to lean towards inertia anymore, I better come up with something good.
Keeping in mind why we are making a resolution and writing that down, so we might reference it often, seems a good idea too. I plan to write down what impact the resolution makes on my life.
And, the magazine article suggested making a list of things we should STOP doing because they prevent us from achieving resolutions or goals. I hadn’t thought of that before. Kind of coming at it from the other direction. E.g. “I should stop thinking about fudge every hour because it will slow my weight loss goal down and I will just be disgusted and discouraged as usual!”
Ya, well, better get started on those resolutions. I only plan to make 2 or 3, too many will overwhelm me I know. I’ll keep you posted…especially if I’m successful!