Keep the Promises You Make to Yourself

CindyCarrollESome promises take longer to keep than others but promises you make to yourself are important. Promises for me come in different forms. Goals I set for myself every year. Daily, weekly, or monthly promises I’ll make. They’re easy to off handedly say, “I’ll read more this week.” Or “I’ll watch what I eat.” Even promises to take better care of yourself are easy to think and forget. This year I’m doing a better job at keeping those promises I made to myself.

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The first promise I make to myself every year is to lose weight and get into better shape. But this time the promise had another one attached to it. Something I desperately wanted to do but not if I was overweight. So maybe that promise was promise number one. In any case, I’ve stuck to my weight loss plan because I had the other promise in mind. The Supernatural convention in Toronto this year has been a goal since I found out they had the conventions in Toronto. This year’s is even more important because they aren’t coming back to Toronto next year. I didn’t know this when I made the initial weight loss goal so I’m glad I stuck to the weight loss plan all these months. As of last weigh in I’m down 42.6 pounds. Those photo ops I have planned should turn out really well!

Another promise I make every year is to save money. But what does that look like? How much money? I tended to be vague but this time I knew I needed the money for something specific. The Supernatural convention. Targets help a lot. I had a weight loss target for a specific date so I’ve stayed on track. I had a monetary target so I could go to the convention and do the photo ops I wanted so I went without shopping, specialty coffees, buying lunch at work so I could save.

I promised I would actually publish something longer than a short story. I still haven’t done that yet but that’s in the works. Success at publishing can’t happen unless you release your work into the wild and let people read it. For the longest time I’ve been concentrating on getting words written. Have to get more words done. Have to write when I get home. Have to take a week off to write. But I wasn’t revising works that were already written and releasing them. After a talk with my husband and a good friend who is also a writer I realized I’m afraid to release something in my name. I have over twenty stories up under pen names. But only four short stories under mine, three of those are in anthologies. I made the decision to work on revisions of two completed stories so I can release those. Then I’ll work on new words.

I promised I would read more this year and so far I’m on track but I’m still behind where I wanted to be. So far this year I’ve read two books. I was hoping to be at four by now at least. The year is still young and I can do more to read more.

What promises have you made to yourself? Are you keeping them?


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8 thoughts on “Keep the Promises You Make to Yourself

  1. I am very impressed! You are certainly further along on your promises than I am to myself. I like that you call them promises to yourself instead of goals. It makes them more personal and like rewards when you keep them. That is clever. And you sound like you are definitely keeping those promises! You are inspiring to me.


  2. I’m with Sarah… fantastic weight loss accomplishment. Being 65 and on Medicare now, my Advantage plan allows me to join a gym for free. And I did a month ago. My goal? Since I broke a hip back in 2010, I’ve been reluctant to do more than walk for 30 minutes or so a day. I almost never got on the floor. Did nothing with my upper body. A year or so ago, I tried to do some pushups and couldn’t. Now I intend to get my upper strength back and more stamina. I want to be able to become familiar with the floor again, be able to do pushups again, and to get up on my feet without needing a nearby couch, wall or chair as an aid.


  3. So happy for you, Cindy — much congratulations!! You’re an inspiration in so many ways, and I wish you nothing but continued success. Writing under a pen name is the right choice for some (talk to Doris about that), so it may be a good option for you. Or, do as Sarah has done: some works under a different “style” of your name. There are many options to consider. However it is you decide to present your works is just fine — because you and those who know you will know they are your words. Best to you, Cindy, in all your endeavors and promises!


  4. Great post, Cindy. I think you’ve found the secret to keeping promises: figuring out what you have to do to keep them, such as doing without excess shopping, rather than trying to follow a vague “plan” that has no core. (I know a lot about that process.) Congratulations on all you’ve achieved. Have fun in Toronto.


  5. Wow, that is a lot of weight to loose. Good for you. You have made great strides so far this year. Keep it up. We are all here cheering you on. If you need me to I will eat of a few of those cookies for you.


  6. Glad you are reaching your goals. I’ve been watching your weight loss. I’m so proud of you. I know how hard it is. We’re making some eating changes, and I hope we can keep it up. Glad you are getting published, the anthology sounds like a fun read. Cher’ley


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