Anniversaries

Kathy - greenKate Wyland

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Last week was our anniversary. We’ve been married a long time, but I won’t tell you just how many years. This anniversary was one that people tend to make a big deal of. We had planned to take a trip to Italy last Spring as part of our celebration—had all the reservations, plane tickets, itineraries set up. But my hubby ended up in the hospital the month before and we were left dealing with doctor visits when we should have been in Rome. We thought we’d try for this Fall instead, but that probably won’t happen now.

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Seems the universe decided it was time for us to buy a house again. When it came to time to renew the lease on the place we’ve been renting for a few years, the owner informed us he had decided to sell, but we could have first dibs. So quite unexpectedly we were faced with either buying a house we weren’t that enthusiastic about or finding another to buy or rent. Given the ridiculous housing market in our area we eventually came to the conclusion that staying where we were was the most practical choice. The realtor I was working with insisted it was a good investment. So for the past month we’ve been dealing with all the endless paperwork and inspections and signings and so forth that are required these days. I swear the documentation has doubled in the ten years since we last dealt with real estate. But now we can fix up the place the way we’d really like it.

Somehow all this hoorah has taken away our interest in having much of a celebration. Our kids would like to give us a party, but right now we’d just like to catch our breaths and have some quiet time. Maybe in a couple of weeks we’ll feel like partying.

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So last weekend we drove down to one of our favorite places and stayed the night. The Monterey-Carmel area of California is one of the most beautiful places on earth. Next to Monterey is the small town of Pacific Grove, which has a spectacular coastline we never tire of exploring. We stayed at a funky little motel called the Butterfly Grove Inn, which is next to the famed grove of Eucalyptus trees where the Monarch butterflies spend the winter. Then we had dinner at one of our all-time favorite restaurants, the Passion Fish. Wonderful gourmet meals and surprisingly reasonable prices.

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The following day we roamed the town of Carmel, home to charming little hide-away restaurants and exclusive galleries and shops. At the end of the day we had a drink at the Carmel Highlands and watched the waves come in. All together a quiet, relaxing weekend.

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The Tuck Box in Carmel

The Tuck Box in Carmel

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Whenever anyone talks about an anniversary the emphasis is usually on how long you’ve been married. Wow, ten years! As if it’s some sort of endurance race you should be congratulated on finishing. Amazing, twenty-five years! Astounding, forty years! This has always struck me as sort strange. In my mind the thing to be celebrated is not how long you’ve “survived” being together, but the day you pledged your love to your other. When you come down to it, every day is an anniversary and every day you need to renew your commitment.

How about you? How long have you been married (if you’re married)? How do you celebrate your anniversaries?

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16 Responses to Anniversaries

  1. sstamm625 says:

    Happy Anniversary, Kate! Your weekend sounds wonderful. I’ve never been to that part of the country, but I have a friend from that area who had told me about how beautiful it is! Your pictures capture beauty and charm. Congratulations on the house purchase too. You’ll get to Italy some day!

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  2. Doris says:

    Kate,
    What a busy and eventful year, and so happy you both had us time. Interesting concepts about anniversaries that will bear some thought. Here is to many more days and years of celebration. Doris

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  3. Happy Anniversary. Sounds like you’ve got your priorities straight. Sometimes you have to take time out to enjoy what you have. What a lovely way to spend an anniversary, in a quiet, cozy place, away from the reality of your hectic life, if only for a few days. It seems like the house purchase is a great idea and what fun you’ll have making it your own. Since you’ve been living in it, I’m sure you know the updates you want. Good luck. I’ve been married four years to the love of my life and we spend our anniversary going on a day or overnight trip, just to be together alone and reflect on the past year and the ones to come. I think having each other all to ourselves is the best!

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    • katewyland says:

      I agree. Together time is the best.

      You’re right, we have lots of ideas about what we’d like to do to the place. Already ripped out all the high allergy plants from the backyard! Getting ready to make some raised planters for growing vegies. Be interesting to see how much we actually accomplish.

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  4. I was married for seven years. During most of our married life, my husband was partially paralyzed as a result of two strokes so we didn`t do much on our anniveraries since going out was difficult. One year however, my cousin got married on the same day as our anniversary so going to her wedding was a great way for us to celebrate. Happy anniversary.

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  5. Nancy Jardine says:

    Kate- Happy Anniversary from me, too. My husband and I celebrated our 40th Wedding Anniversay in March 2014 but some would say we didn’t do anything spectacular since we didn’t go away anywhere. That wasn’t to say nothing happened that WAS spectacular. March is a very busy month normally, but this year was exceptional. My brithday is 15th , which was followed on the 19th by the birth of my grandson (D & husband & 2 children currently live with us while their new house is built so it was a very busy time). That was immediately followed by Mothering Sunday in Scotland. Book 3 of my Celtic Fervour Series was launched on the 25th March and our Anniversay was the 29th. An extended family meal at home, made by my 2 daughters and their husbands was about all we could contemplate -but it was perfect! Phew! lovely and busy. I’m sure you’ll appreciate all the house paper signing etc when it’s all over, and you can contemplate a holiday when it is the most convenient time for you. 🙂

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  6. Mike Staton says:

    Not to Rome, but Carmel sounds close to the hearts of your and your husband, so it’s a fitting choice. When you mentioned the Eucalyptus trees, it brought back memories of my childhood in Rialto, California. I lived there from 1957 to 1964 — from kindergarten into the sixth grade. I lived two blocks from U.S. 66… the Orange Bowl bowling alley fronted the famed highway, and I often walked there to bowl a few games. I could look up the road and see a long row of Eucalyptus trees. They were wonderful to look at. When I returned there in ’99 for visit, they were all gone, and the little town of 12,000 had grown to more than 100,000.

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    • katewyland says:

      My much-older brother and his family lived in Rialto a little after you. I don’t remember the Eucalyptus trees, but maybe didn’t hit the same areas. It’s always shocking to see how much things have changed (at least in CA). I didn’t even recognize the street I lived on in grade school.

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  7. Wranglers says:

    Like you, we’ve been married a long time. We do celebrate every day. I sure hope you get to take your trip. Thst would be so exciting. We have a lottle get-away plave too. It would be boring to most, but sometimes boring is nice. We think of it as charming. Love the photos. Happy late anniversary. Cher’ley

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  8. sj says:

    Kate, Staying where you are is a wise move. You know the house, you know the area and most importantly you don’t have to pack. I recently moved and it is a task. A task with lots of twists, turns and surprises. It’s time to start tweaking things around the house and make it truly your own.

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  9. erinfarwell says:

    Happy Anniversary from me as well. My husband and I were married the night before Thanksgiving because that year it fell on the same date that my husband’s parents and grandparents were married. We don’t really celebrate it because we are celebrating Thanksgiving but that works out for me. Lovely post and good luck with your old “new” home.

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